Parenting Children - September 14, 2012

Day 31 - The Power of Listening - Part II

Parenting Children Ages 0-10

Show an interest

• involves effort and generosity
• listen to what appeals to your child(ren)

Avoid shutting them down

• value their ideas
• allow them to express negative feelings such as disappointments, embarrassments, sadness, anxiety, and anger.

Reflect back

• repeat back to your child what you think he or she is saying
• reflect back to your child some of his or her words, but not in parrot fashion, as that can be annoying
• concentrate on reflecting back the feelings you think your child is trying to express, e.g. it sounds like you feel upset or frustrated or sad?
• reflective listening will help your child(ren) to frame their own feelings

Question:
Complete the attached worksheet.

From Series: "Parenting Children Ages 0-10"

Study Guide

More Messages Associated With "Family"...

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  • our children crave to be noticed by us and crave our attention
  • special time with each child develops their self-esteem and their ability to relate to others
  • can be difficult for us as parents to recognize this need and to fulfill it
  • the more children we have, the more planning and conscious effort it takes
  • channels of communication are opened through spending one-on-one time with our child(ren)
  • can transform a child’s behavior
  • eye contact:
    • can be used either positively or negatively
    • children learn by modeling – if we do it, they’ll do it
    • easy when they are babies – but don’t give up eye contact as they get older
    • good eye contact goes hand in hand with active listening

Do you have fond memories of 1:1 time with a parent?  What memories can you create with your children one on one?

 

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