Parenting Children - September 14, 2012

Day 31 - The Power of Listening - Part II

Show an interest

• involves effort and generosity
• listen to what appeals to your child(ren)

Avoid shutting them down

• value their ideas
• allow them to express negative feelings such as disappointments, embarrassments, sadness, anxiety, and anger.

Reflect back

• repeat back to your child what you think he or she is saying
• reflect back to your child some of his or her words, but not in parrot fashion, as that can be annoying
• concentrate on reflecting back the feelings you think your child is trying to express, e.g. it sounds like you feel upset or frustrated or sad?
• reflective listening will help your child(ren) to frame their own feelings

Question:
Complete the attached worksheet.

From Series: "Parenting Children Ages 0-10"

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Why do we set boundaries?

  • the foundation of effective discipline is unconditional love
  • a child growing up wants and needs to know where the boundaries are and who is going to enforce them

Discipline develops three things:

  • self- discipline (for morally responsible behavior)
  • a respect for authority (parental and other)

a sense of security

Have you tried one of the five love languages in a new way?  What happened?

 

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