Parenting Children - September 14, 2012

Day 31 - The Power of Listening - Part II

Show an interest

• involves effort and generosity
• listen to what appeals to your child(ren)

Avoid shutting them down

• value their ideas
• allow them to express negative feelings such as disappointments, embarrassments, sadness, anxiety, and anger.

Reflect back

• repeat back to your child what you think he or she is saying
• reflect back to your child some of his or her words, but not in parrot fashion, as that can be annoying
• concentrate on reflecting back the feelings you think your child is trying to express, e.g. it sounds like you feel upset or frustrated or sad?
• reflective listening will help your child(ren) to frame their own feelings

Question:
Complete the attached worksheet.

From Series: "Parenting Children Ages 0-10"

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Right and Wrong Choices

  • teach the difference between acceptable and unacceptable behavior
  • explain the consequences – pleasant for good behavior and unpleasant for crossing the boundary
  • tell them that the choice is theirs
  • teaches them to take responsibility for their own actions
  • reward “right choices” with descriptive praise
  • use a “star chart” or the equivalent for persistent issues
  • have negative consequences for “wrong choices.”

What can help you reinforce “right choices”?  What consequences can you put in place for “wrong choices”?

 

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