Parenting Children - September 14, 2012

Day 31 - The Power of Listening - Part II

Show an interest

• involves effort and generosity
• listen to what appeals to your child(ren)

Avoid shutting them down

• value their ideas
• allow them to express negative feelings such as disappointments, embarrassments, sadness, anxiety, and anger.

Reflect back

• repeat back to your child what you think he or she is saying
• reflect back to your child some of his or her words, but not in parrot fashion, as that can be annoying
• concentrate on reflecting back the feelings you think your child is trying to express, e.g. it sounds like you feel upset or frustrated or sad?
• reflective listening will help your child(ren) to frame their own feelings

Question:
Complete the attached worksheet.

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. Be Fair and Clear

  • are they old enough to understand our instructions?
  • are we expecting too much for their age?

2. Use your voice effectively

  • use a serious tone of voice to teach what “no” means
  • aim not to shout unless warning of danger

3. Action gets results

  • shouting and threatening are ineffective
  • important to take action over bad behavior,
  • i.e: follow through with a consequence

What choices have you given your child(ren) today?  What encouragement have you given for right choices this week?  What unpleasant consequences have you used for wrong choices this week?

 

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