Parenting Children - September 20, 2012

Day 37 - Helping our children manage their anger - Older children Ages 5-10

• read each child’s way of showing anger
• aim to teach them "expression," rather than aggression or "suppression"
• help them to express anger appropriately (verbally and pleasantly)
• correct rudeness, destructive behavior, swearing, hitting others, etc. - without shutting them down
• allow them to express negative feelings: hurt, sadness, anger, etc.
• not allowing expression or discussion can lead to passive aggressive behavior, i.e; using negative behavior to get back at parents, such as being uncommunicative, refusing to co-operate, or being deliberately annoying
• we need to recognize if we are contributing to the problem and our child’s anger
• don't punish for being immature in expressing negative feelings

Question:
For you, what will be hardest about reacting to anger in this way? Why?

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. Be Fair and Clear

  • are they old enough to understand our instructions?
  • are we expecting too much for their age?

2. Use your voice effectively

  • use a serious tone of voice to teach what “no” means
  • aim not to shout unless warning of danger

3. Action gets results

  • shouting and threatening are ineffective
  • important to take action over bad behavior,
  • i.e: follow through with a consequence

What choices have you given your child(ren) today?  What encouragement have you given for right choices this week?  What unpleasant consequences have you used for wrong choices this week?

 

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