Parenting Children - September 14, 2012

Day 31 - The Power of Listening - Part II

Parenting Children Ages 0-10

Show an interest

• involves effort and generosity
• listen to what appeals to your child(ren)

Avoid shutting them down

• value their ideas
• allow them to express negative feelings such as disappointments, embarrassments, sadness, anxiety, and anger.

Reflect back

• repeat back to your child what you think he or she is saying
• reflect back to your child some of his or her words, but not in parrot fashion, as that can be annoying
• concentrate on reflecting back the feelings you think your child is trying to express, e.g. it sounds like you feel upset or frustrated or sad?
• reflective listening will help your child(ren) to frame their own feelings

Question:
Complete the attached worksheet.

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2. Don’t try to arbitrate every fight

  • give them space to work out their own disagreements
  • remain impartial- don’t always blame the older child or jump to conclusions
  • intervene if they are hurting each other
  • don’t allow unkind words or bullying
  • think ahead for regular issues that cause disputes: take turns when possible

What are the main causes of arguments between your children?  Or between your only child and his/her friends?

 

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