Parenting Children - September 3, 2012

Day 20 - Combining Love and Limits - Why Boundaries Matter

Why do we set boundaries?
• the foundation of effective discipline is unconditional love
• a child growing up wants and needs to know where the boundaries are and who is going to enforce them

Discipline develops three things:
• self- discipline (for morally responsible behavior)
• a respect for authority (parental and other)
• a sense of security

Question:
Have you tried one of the five love languages in a new way? What happened?

From Series: "Parenting Children Ages 0-10"

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  • read each child’s way of showing anger
  • aim to teach them “expression,” rather than aggression or “suppression”
  • help them to express anger appropriately (verbally and pleasantly)
  • correct rudeness, destructive behavior, swearing, hitting others, etc. – without shutting
  • them down
  • allow them to express negative feelings: hurt, sadness, anger, etc.
  • not allowing expression or discussion can lead to passive aggressive behavior, i.e; using negative behavior to get back at parents, such as being uncommunicative, refusing to co-operate, or being deliberately annoying
  • we need to recognize if we are contributing to the problem and our child’s anger

don’t punish for being immature in expressing negative feelings

For you, what will be hardest about reacting to anger in this way?  Why?

 

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