Parenting Children - September 16, 2012

Day 33 - Relationships with siblings and other children Part II

2. Don't try to arbitrate every fight

• give them space to work out their own disagreements
• remain impartial- don't always blame the older child or jump to conclusions
• intervene if they are hurting each other
• don't allow unkind words or bullying
• think ahead for regular issues that cause disputes: take turns when possible

Question:
What are the main causes of arguments between your children? Or between your only child and his/her friends?

From Series: "Parenting Children Ages 0-10"

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  • read each child’s way of showing anger
  • aim to teach them “expression,” rather than aggression or “suppression”
  • help them to express anger appropriately (verbally and pleasantly)
  • correct rudeness, destructive behavior, swearing, hitting others, etc. – without shutting
  • them down
  • allow them to express negative feelings: hurt, sadness, anger, etc.
  • not allowing expression or discussion can lead to passive aggressive behavior, i.e; using negative behavior to get back at parents, such as being uncommunicative, refusing to co-operate, or being deliberately annoying
  • we need to recognize if we are contributing to the problem and our child’s anger

don’t punish for being immature in expressing negative feelings

For you, what will be hardest about reacting to anger in this way?  Why?

 

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