Marriage Course - September 11, 2012

Day 25 - Putting Negotiation into Action and Grow Together

• we're not incompatible unless we refuse to change
• we can change ourselves; we cannot change each other
• we can only change when we know what matters to each other
• we must tell each other what frustrates and hurts us
• much conflict arises from our different assumptions about the way things should be
• important to be aware of our own and each other’s values (often learned during our upbringing)
• requesting change is helpful; demanding change is harmful

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If a relationship is to thrive and keep growing, we must have regular time together.

At the very least, plan to spend 1-2 hours alone together each week; to rekindle romance, to have fun, to talk together about your feelings (e.g., your hopes, fears, worries, excitements.)

We call this marriage time.

Marriage time should have all the connotations of a “date” together.

The benefits of marriage time

  • keeps the fun and romance alive in our relationship
  • deepens our understanding and appreciation of each other
  • ensures we communicate regularly on a meaningful level

Plan time together

It doesn’t happen automatically. Find the best time for you and book it in, just like you would any other social or business appointment.

Write it on your calendars e.g.; Monday evening, umarriage time” or Wednesday lunchtime, marriage time.”

If you are very busy, plan marriage time several months in advance.

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