Marriage Course - September 16, 2012

Day 30 - The Healing Process

What happens if hurt and anger are buried?

Physical symptoms
• disturbed sleep
• appetite affected
• medical conditions, e.g.; ulcers, high blood
• pressure, pain

Behavioral symptoms
• inability to relax
• low sexual desire
• quick temper / intolerance
• escape through drugs, alcohol, pornography, etc.
• escape into work, children, religious activities, etc.

Emotional symptoms
• loss of positive emotions, e.g.; romance, love, joy
• low self-esteem / depression
• shut down
• fear of confrontation

Question:How many of these are part of your life today? How, if at all, are they connected with unresolved anger?

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If a relationship is to thrive and keep growing, we must have regular time together.

At the very least, plan to spend 1-2 hours alone together each week; to rekindle romance, to have fun, to talk together about your feelings (e.g., your hopes, fears, worries, excitements.)

We call this marriage time.

Marriage time should have all the connotations of a “date” together.

The benefits of marriage time

  • keeps the fun and romance alive in our relationship
  • deepens our understanding and appreciation of each other
  • ensures we communicate regularly on a meaningful level

Plan time together

It doesn’t happen automatically. Find the best time for you and book it in, just like you would any other social or business appointment.

Write it on your calendars e.g.; Monday evening, umarriage time” or Wednesday lunchtime, marriage time.”

If you are very busy, plan marriage time several months in advance.

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