Last week, I shared that a 2005 StatsCan study revealed 61 per cent of rural residents knew all of their neighbours, but only 16 per cent of those living in major urban centres did.

This isn’t terribly surprising.  Do you have a hard time remembering names in the first place?  I certainly do, even though I know I shouldn’t.  Sometimes I forget the moment someone tells me…I was too busy thinking about what to say next!

But names are important.  According to a Lifehacker blog post, “a person’s own name is the single most important word to him/her; it is intimately tied to his/her identity as an individual. How you deal with people’s names can have a profound effect on their impressions of you: Think about the times you’ve felt special when someone you admired addressed you by your name in a sincere tone; or think about the times when you’ve felt belittled when someone negligently called you by the wrong name, or worse, maliciously made fun of your name in front of you.”

But something so important is also so easily forgotten.  Sometimes it’s physiology, since “names are among the first things to go as our brains begin shrinking — by about half of one per cent annually — starting as early as our thirties.”

People come up with all kinds of strategies for remembering names.  Personally, I write the name down as soon as I can, since it helps me most to see the name in print somewhere.   It works for me, but maybe not you.

Question: How well do you remember names?  What strategies help you?

Ryan Sim - June 19, 2013

Wednesday - Change It - The Golden Rule

Jesus always has the Pharisees, or religious lawyers, in mind as he teaches. Pharisees were essentially seeking a checklist of laws they can work through. Jesus says that wasn’t the point of the law. Look back to the beatitudes, the content that we started this series with. Jesus was always expanding the law to look at our motivations, not just outward actions we can check off our do/don't do list. It's a good thing, because we know life isn’t like that. Life throws stituations at all of us that we never anticipated, and could never have listed in advance. Jesus describes keeping God’s law with this line: So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets. He goes on to recognize, this is no checklist, this is very difficult: narrow gate to pass through. Baggage doesn’t fit. All your religious background, credentials, money, power, etc. all get left behind if you want to go through this gate. Every human can go through this door if we are willing to let go of all the sin baggage that keeps us from God. The narrow path – or the cramped path – does not allow us to take with us the things we can carry on the broad path. What are those things? Our failure to live this way, to go through Jesus’ narrow door, is due to our self-centeredness. We are instinctively self-centered, self-loving. Fall. 40% of millenials say that "being self-promoting, narcissistic, overconfident, and attention-seeking is helpful for succeeding in a competitive world." Almost 80% say that their friends use social media for those reasons. So Jesus uses that against us. Uses our self-love to love others. He redeems our self-love. Self-love is powerful. Usually our guide – now Jesus says it’s for others, too. Jesus calls us to an awareness of others as God’s beloved children, too. We’re not the only ones. Prevents need for endless rules for every situation. Put self in other’s shoes. Question: Describe the most self-centered person you know. What do you have in common with them? What characteristics do you share? Why is this so hard to admit?

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