Last week, I told you story of my old neighbour who helped build a deck.  He nicely represented the transition from strangers to neighbours to acquaintances to partners.  Today we’ll go one step further.  We’ll talk about becoming friends with those we work with, those we help, and those we live around.

When I was a volunteer paramedic, I remember one partner in particular.  We did several shifts together, and on calls he was always nervous, and second-guessing himself, which could be challenging to work with.  One day, he invited me to supper.  I met his family, saw his home and farm, and in the process learned about him and his values.  The next shift we had together was different.  I found we could communicate better, and I could anticipate his moves.  Debriefing the call afterwards was easier.  I knew this quirks, where they came from, and could work from a place of partnership and friendship rather than tolerance.

This has wider application than the workplace, but some good examples of how important this is follow from a few studies:

50 percent of employees with a best friend at work reported that they feel a strong connection with their company, compared to just 10 percent of employees without a best friend at work.  (A 2012 Gallup report which found that)

People planning to stick with their current job cited “good relationship with co-workers” as the major reason (67%) – above “job satisfaction” (63%), “flexible working arrangements” (57%) and even salary (which ranked seventh at 46%).  A 2013 survey of 2,223 business people across Australia

In the same way, being a follower of Jesus isn’t just about doing transactions, like dealing with other followers of Jesus because you have to, or caring for others in need simply because it looks good.

We’re actually meant to become friends with those we care for, and those we care with.  Not every single one to the same degree maybe, but we are actually meant to have a relationship with those we encounter in this life, and not simply use people or tolerate others.

We’ll focus this week on those we care for, those we’ve been talking about all along, and becoming friends.

Question: When have you unexpectedly “hit it off” with someone at work?

Ryan Sim - December 10, 2013

Tuesday - Study It - The Night That Changed the Powerful

The Night that Changed Everything

We’re looking this week at how Jesus’ birth threatened powerful people. Here’s the story: Now after Jesus was born in Bethlehem of Judea in the days of Herod the king, behold, wise men from the east came to Jerusalem, saying, “Where is he who has been born king of the Jews? For we saw his star when it rose and have come to worship him.” When Herod the king heard this, he was troubled, and all Jerusalem with him; and assembling all the chief priests and scribes of the people, he inquired of them where the Christ was to be born. They told him, “In Bethlehem of Judea, for so it is written by the prophet: “‘And you, O Bethlehem, in the land of Judah, are by no means least among the rulers of Judah; for from you shall come a ruler who will shepherd my people Israel.’” Then Herod summoned the wise men secretly and ascertained from them what time the star had appeared. And he sent them to Bethlehem, saying, “Go and search diligently for the child, and when you have found him, bring me word, that I too may come and worship him.” (…) And being warned in a dream not to return to Herod, they departed to their own country by another way. Now when they had departed, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream and said, “Rise, take the child and his mother, and flee to Egypt, and remain there until I tell you, for Herod is about to search for the child, to destroy him.” And he rose and took the child and his mother by night and departed to Egypt and remained there until the death of Herod. This was to fulfill what the Lord had spoken by the prophet, “Out of Egypt I called my son.” Then Herod, when he saw that he had been tricked by the wise men, became furious, and he sent and killed all the male children in Bethlehem and in all that region who were two years old or under, according to the time that he had ascertained from the wise men. Then was fulfilled what was spoken by the prophet Jeremiah: “A voice was heard in Ramah, weeping and loud lamentation, Rachel weeping for her children; she refused to be comforted, because they are no more.” (Matthew 2:1-8, 12-18 ESV) Just like last week, you can see the story of Jesus’ birth was part of God’s big story throughout history. There’ve been hints throughout time that these events would occur, even if people couldn’t see them in advance, many more could see them in retrospect. We can see that from the beginning of his life...powerful people encountered Jesus and recognized who he was, even if they didn’t like it. Here in this story we have two people, both claiming the title King of the Jews. Herod is a powerful man, but he’s a middle man. The Romans are really in charge, but keep him as King of the local area because he’s useful to them, at least for now. On the other side, the people under him allow him to rule because of fear. They know he’s not a legitimate heir to the throne of Israel, even though he claims the title. So Herod hangs on to power by removing any threat to his power. He uses fear out of his own fear. This is why he is so concerned by these wise men, who show up and say they’re looking for the King of the Jews. Herod is King of the Jews! Not by birthline or right of course, but because he got what he wanted, and has everyone afraid of him. So if someone else claims to be the rightful King, and can claim the right bloodline, right town of birth, etc. that simply won’t do. So instead of just telling them they’re crazy, and having this rumour get out of hand, Herod uses them. We’ll talk more about that later...but suffice it to say he is manipulative, dangerous, uses people to keep himself in power, and moreover is illegitimate. Question: A prophet 500 years before this happened said the Messiah would emerge as a light in “dark times.” How was the era when Jesus came a dark time? Are there similarities to our time?

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In preparation for Christmas, our Daily Challenges are going to explore the lifechanging significance of Jesus' birth so long ago. It's more than a sentimental story, or a time for generosity, Christmas celebrates The Night that Changed Everything. We'll explore the original Christmas story from the Bible, and its impact on five kinds of people.

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