Parenting Children - August 28, 2012

Day 16 – Love Language – One to One Time


•  our children crave to be noticed by us and crave our attention
•  special time with each child develops their self-esteem and their ability to relate to others
•  can be difficult for us as parents to recognize this need and to fulfill it
•  the more children we have, the more planning and conscious effort it takes
•  channels of communication are opened through spending one-on-one time with our child(ren)
•  can transform a child’s behavior

eye contact:
•  can be used either positively or negatively
•  children learn by modeling - if we do it, they'll do it
•  easy when they are babies - but don't give up eye contact as they get older
•  good eye contact goes hand in hand with active listening

Question:
Do you have fond memories of 1:1 time with a parent? What memories can you create with your children one on one?

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We look at the role of reflecting back, responding appropriately and taking a long-term view in healthy communications.7. Reflect back what they have said

  • say back to them what you think they are trying to express, particularly their feelings use some of their own words and phrases

8. Respond appropriately

  • give guidance and reassurance
  • they are likely to remember our words for years to come

9. Take a long-term view

  • sometimes any meaningful communicationwith teenagers can be a big struggle
  • difficulties are usually the result of a phase they’re going through
  • try to create the conditions for conversation to become easier, at mealtimes; spending time with them doing what they enjoy; using their love language
  • if worried, seek professional help and/or medical support

Role play with another adult.  Have them share a typical teenage problem with you, and reflect back what they’ve said.  Go back and forth for a few minutes, then switch.  What was easy or hard about this?