Parenting Children - September 20, 2012

Day 37 - Helping our children manage their anger - Older children Ages 5-10

• read each child’s way of showing anger
• aim to teach them "expression," rather than aggression or "suppression"
• help them to express anger appropriately (verbally and pleasantly)
• correct rudeness, destructive behavior, swearing, hitting others, etc. - without shutting them down
• allow them to express negative feelings: hurt, sadness, anger, etc.
• not allowing expression or discussion can lead to passive aggressive behavior, i.e; using negative behavior to get back at parents, such as being uncommunicative, refusing to co-operate, or being deliberately annoying
• we need to recognize if we are contributing to the problem and our child’s anger
• don't punish for being immature in expressing negative feelings

Question:
For you, what will be hardest about reacting to anger in this way? Why?

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2. Our home environment

  • make your home a place that your children want to come back to, where:
  • they are free to be individuals not in a straightjacket of conformity
  • there are boundaries but not legalism
  • there is discipline but not authoritarianism
  • there is more encouragement than criticism
  • there is plenty of fun and laughter
  • there is more gratitude than complaining and blaming
  • there are apologies and forgiveness and the opportunity for fresh starts
  • faith is more easily caught than taught
    • children initially form their picture of God from the way their parents treat them show unconditional love

3. Involving other people

  • the wider family
  • other role models

4. Passing on our values about money

  • pressures on children and parents from advertising and the celebrity culture
  • give them choices with money – choosing how much to save, spend, and give away
  • teach generosity, good management, and honesty
  • help them learn the value of experiencing delayed gratification
  • model a healthy attitude towards possessions

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