Parenting Teens - September 6, 2012

Day 21 - Effective Communications Strategies Part III

We look at the role of reflecting back, responding appropriately and taking a long-term view in healthy communications.

7. Reflect back what they have said • say back to them what you think they are trying to express, particularly their feelings use some of their own words and phrases

8. Respond appropriately • give guidance and reassurance • they are likely to remember our words for years to come

9. Take a long-term view • sometimes any meaningful communicationwith teenagers can be a big struggle • difficulties are usually the result of a phase they're going through • try to create the conditions for conversation to become easier, at mealtimes; spending time with them doing what they enjoy; using their love language • if worried, seek professional help and/or medical support

Question:
Role play with another adult. Have them share a typical teenage problem with you, and reflect back what they’ve said. Go back and forth for a few minutes, then switch. What was easy or hard about this?

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  • never too soon to start (see the account of John the Baptist in the womb in Luke 1:44, The Bible)
  • never too late to start (see the Parable of the Lost Son in Luke 15: 11-24, The Bible)
  • turn fears and longings into prayers
  • when to pray:
    • with them before they go to sleep
    • teaching them to pray (thank you, sorry, please)
    • on our own
    • with others
    • in traffic jams or when cleaning up or ironing
  • when prompted (often at moments of potential danger or temptation for our child)
  • everyday

what to pray for:

  • friendships
  • schools
  • their health
  • their safety
  • their marriage partner (most children will marry one day and their marriage partner may well already be alive somewhere)
  • their response to God’s love
  • their characters – use the fruit of the Spirit as a list to pray through: love. joy, peace, patience,  kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (see Galatians 5: 22-23, The Bible)
  • pray with them, particularly at bedtime
  • pray for yourselves as parents

Take some time to pray for your child(ren), and plan to make it a regular routine.  Our Christianity 101 Course may help you explore the topic of prayer, God and Christianity in more depth.

 

 

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