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CloseMarriage Course - September 20, 2012
Day 34 - What Forgiveness Is and Is Not
Forgiveness IS NOT
• demanding a person changes before we forgive them
• pretending it doesn't matter and trying to forget about it
• thinking time alone will heal the hurt
Forgiveness IS
• facing the wrong done to us
• recognizing the emotions inside
• releasing the other person into God's hands, leaving the consequences to Him
• choosing not to hold it against our husband or wife
If we do not forgive we'll be the one imprisoned by the bitterness, resentment, and anger
Forgiveness is a process-we often need to keep forgiving for the same hurt-sometimes on a daily basis
God forgives us freely and therefore we must forgive each other freely
Start Again Together:
• begin each day with a fresh start and no backlog-tear off each page of the notebook
• don't expect healing to be instant-apology and forgiveness remove the distance between us but the hurt leaves a bruising that needs time to heal
• re-build trust by setting aside marriage time, and being gentle and kind towards each other
• pray for one another-pray aloud or silently, asking God to heal your partner of the hurt you have caused him or her
This process is like a drain that carries away the hurt
Confession to God and those we hurt, together with forgiving those who have hurt us, must become a daily habit if intimacy is to be maintained. Otherwise the drain begins to block up with unresolved hurt and anger.
Question:Ask your husband or wife to tell you one way that you can support them this week. If you feel comfortable, pray for each other – aloud or silently. Otherwise express your support in some other way.
Question 2:Complete the Worksheet found under "Study Guide"
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- never too soon to start (see the account of John the Baptist in the womb in Luke 1:44, The Bible)
- never too late to start (see the Parable of the Lost Son in Luke 15: 11-24, The Bible)
- turn fears and longings into prayers
- when to pray:
- with them before they go to sleep
- teaching them to pray (thank you, sorry, please)
- on our own
- with others
- in traffic jams or when cleaning up or ironing
- when prompted (often at moments of potential danger or temptation for our child)
- everyday
what to pray for:
- friendships
- schools
- their health
- their safety
- their marriage partner (most children will marry one day and their marriage partner may well already be alive somewhere)
- their response to God’s love
- their characters – use the fruit of the Spirit as a list to pray through: love. joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (see Galatians 5: 22-23, The Bible)
- pray with them, particularly at bedtime
- pray for yourselves as parents
Take some time to pray for your child(ren), and plan to make it a regular routine. Our Christianity 101 Course may help you explore the topic of prayer, God and Christianity in more depth.
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