Marriage Course - September 11, 2012

Day 25 - Putting Negotiation into Action and Grow Together

• we're not incompatible unless we refuse to change
• we can change ourselves; we cannot change each other
• we can only change when we know what matters to each other
• we must tell each other what frustrates and hurts us
• much conflict arises from our different assumptions about the way things should be
• important to be aware of our own and each other’s values (often learned during our upbringing)
• requesting change is helpful; demanding change is harmful

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  • we all listen through filters but often we are unaware of them
  • when someone is speaking, our own memories, attitudes, prejudices, physical environment, lack of interest, etc. all affect what we hear
  • some of the time we are listening more to ourselves than to the other person
  • effective communication requires us to control the conversation in our mind

Take a look at the diagram below.  What filters are, or have been, part of your usual listening process?