Marriage Course - September 14, 2012

Day 28 - Understanding Anger

Reactions to hurt

1. Anger
• some are like rhinos-they attack when provoked
• some are like hedgehogs-they withdraw when threatened

2. Retaliation
• to let our partner know what the hurt felt like

3. Fear
• we withdraw so as not to be hurt again

4. Guilt
• hurt will always be caused by both partners

Question:Identify whether you are a rhino or hedgehog. If you're not sure, ask your partner.

From Series: "Marriage"

Study Guide

More From "Marriage"

Powered by Series Engine

We give an opportunity to practice effective listening.

Take turns spending one minute telling your husband or wife about a happy memory of something that happened to you before you met.  The listener should then summarize what they have heard, taking particular care to describe their partners feelings. This will show that they have been listening and empathizing with what their partner felt.