Parenting Children - September 9, 2012

Day 26 - Helping Children Make Good Choices Part II

Parenting Children Ages 0-10

4. Be one step ahead

• use distraction, distract your child from the issue causing conflict
• develop your own tarntlu rules to avoid regular arguments

5. Give choices

• being given choices is an important part of a child’s learning to take responsibility
• give choices over issues that are unimportant,
• Which of your toys do you want to take?" and “Do you want to play on the beach or go swimming?"
• giving choices helps to defuse conflict

6. Stay in control

• avoid being dragged into shouting matches our emotional reactions can give children a sense of power over us - like allowing them to press a "big red button" on our chests to see us react. getting angry, chasing them, getting upset
• find a way to give realistic warnings
• don't be manipulated by your child(ren)'s shouting, whining, or tantrums

Question:
How can you stay in control of yourself when faced with bad behaviour?

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2. Our home environment

  • make your home a place that your children want to come back to, where:
  • they are free to be individuals not in a straightjacket of conformity
  • there are boundaries but not legalism
  • there is discipline but not authoritarianism
  • there is more encouragement than criticism
  • there is plenty of fun and laughter
  • there is more gratitude than complaining and blaming
  • there are apologies and forgiveness and the opportunity for fresh starts
  • faith is more easily caught than taught
    • children initially form their picture of God from the way their parents treat them show unconditional love

3. Involving other people

  • the wider family
  • other role models

4. Passing on our values about money

  • pressures on children and parents from advertising and the celebrity culture
  • give them choices with money – choosing how much to save, spend, and give away
  • teach generosity, good management, and honesty
  • help them learn the value of experiencing delayed gratification
  • model a healthy attitude towards possessions

Complete the attached worksheet.

 

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