Parenting Children - September 14, 2012

Day 31 - The Power of Listening - Part II

Parenting Children Ages 0-10

Show an interest

• involves effort and generosity
• listen to what appeals to your child(ren)

Avoid shutting them down

• value their ideas
• allow them to express negative feelings such as disappointments, embarrassments, sadness, anxiety, and anger.

Reflect back

• repeat back to your child what you think he or she is saying
• reflect back to your child some of his or her words, but not in parrot fashion, as that can be annoying
• concentrate on reflecting back the feelings you think your child is trying to express, e.g. it sounds like you feel upset or frustrated or sad?
• reflective listening will help your child(ren) to frame their own feelings

Question:
Complete the attached worksheet.

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2. Our home environment

  • make your home a place that your children want to come back to, where:
  • they are free to be individuals not in a straightjacket of conformity
  • there are boundaries but not legalism
  • there is discipline but not authoritarianism
  • there is more encouragement than criticism
  • there is plenty of fun and laughter
  • there is more gratitude than complaining and blaming
  • there are apologies and forgiveness and the opportunity for fresh starts
  • faith is more easily caught than taught
    • children initially form their picture of God from the way their parents treat them show unconditional love

3. Involving other people

  • the wider family
  • other role models

4. Passing on our values about money

  • pressures on children and parents from advertising and the celebrity culture
  • give them choices with money – choosing how much to save, spend, and give away
  • teach generosity, good management, and honesty
  • help them learn the value of experiencing delayed gratification
  • model a healthy attitude towards possessions

Complete the attached worksheet.

 

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