Marriage Course - September 16, 2012

Day 30 - The Healing Process

Marriage

What happens if hurt and anger are buried?

Physical symptoms
• disturbed sleep
• appetite affected
• medical conditions, e.g.; ulcers, high blood
• pressure, pain

Behavioral symptoms
• inability to relax
• low sexual desire
• quick temper / intolerance
• escape through drugs, alcohol, pornography, etc.
• escape into work, children, religious activities, etc.

Emotional symptoms
• loss of positive emotions, e.g.; romance, love, joy
• low self-esteem / depression
• shut down
• fear of confrontation

Question:How many of these are part of your life today? How, if at all, are they connected with unresolved anger?

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Nurturing involves seeking to meet each other’s emotional needs for affection, encouragement, support, comfort, etc,

  • we all have a longing to be loved and to be known by another
  • empty space inside that needs to be filled up with love
  • when empty, we feel alone or lonely giving each other emotional support refills the empty space inside
  • we are made for close relationships

How to nurture

Be proactive rather than reactive:

  • being reactive means focusing on each others shortcomings
  • being proactive means focusing on each other’s needs
  • proactive behavior draws couples together because each one feels loved; when we feel loved, we feel like loving

Study each other:

  • recognize each other’s needs
  • often our partner’s needs and desires will be different to our own
  • discover what matters to your husband or wife. otherwise we tend to give what we like to receive.
  • needs change over time
  • make requests, not demands
  • we can’t assume our husband or wife automatically knows our desires. We must tell each other.

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