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CloseMarriage Course - August 30, 2012
Day 13 - Hindrances to Listening - Bad Habits
1. Reassuring
2. Giving advice
3. Intellectualizing
4. Going off on a tangent
5. Interrupting
• these habits can prevent the speaker from saying what they're feeling and they may eventually shut down
• we need to listen first, before coming in with our contribution
Question:Take a few moments to identify your particular bad habit and then discuss this with your husband or wife.
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Reactions to hurt
1. Anger
- some are like rhinos-they attack when provoked
- some are like hedgehogs-they withdraw when threatened
2. Retaliation
- to let our partner know what the hurt felt like
3. Fear
- we withdraw so as not to be hurt again
4. Guilt
- hurt will always be caused by both partners
Identify whether you are a rhino or hedgehog. If you’re not sure, ask your partner.
