Marriage Course - September 11, 2012

Day 25 - Putting Negotiation into Action and Grow Together

Marriage

• we're not incompatible unless we refuse to change
• we can change ourselves; we cannot change each other
• we can only change when we know what matters to each other
• we must tell each other what frustrates and hurts us
• much conflict arises from our different assumptions about the way things should be
• important to be aware of our own and each other’s values (often learned during our upbringing)
• requesting change is helpful; demanding change is harmful

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Reactions to hurt

1. Anger

  • some are like rhinos-they attack when provoked
  • some are like hedgehogs-they withdraw when threatened

2. Retaliation

  • to let our partner know what the hurt felt like

3. Fear

  • we withdraw so as not to be hurt again

4. Guilt

  • hurt will always be caused by both partners

Identify whether you are a rhino or hedgehog. If you’re not sure, ask your partner.