Reactions to hurt

1. Anger

• some are like rhinos-they attack when provoked
• some are like hedgehogs-they withdraw when threatened

2. Retaliation

• to let our partner know what the hurt felt like

3. Fear

• we withdraw so as not to be hurt again

4. Guilt

• hurt will always be caused by both partners

Identify whether you are a rhino or hedgehog. If you’re not sure, ask your partner.