Marriage Course - August 30, 2012

Day 13 - Hindrances to Listening - Bad Habits

1. Reassuring
2. Giving advice
3. Intellectualizing
4. Going off on a tangent
5. Interrupting

• these habits can prevent the speaker from saying what they're feeling and they may eventually shut down
• we need to listen first, before coming in with our contribution

Question:Take a few moments to identify your particular bad habit and then discuss this with your husband or wife.

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What happens if hurt and anger are buried?

Physical symptoms

  • disturbed sleep
  • appetite affected
  • medical conditions, e.g.; ulcers, high blood
  • pressure, pain

Behavioral symptoms

  • inability to relax
  • low sexual desire
  • quick temper / intolerance
  • escape through drugs, alcohol, pornography, etc.
  • escape into work, children, religious activities, etc.

Emotional symptoms

  • loss of positive emotions, e.g.; romance, love, joy
  • low self-esteem / depression
  • shut down
  • fear of confrontation

How many of these are part of your life today?  How, if at all, are they connected with unresolved anger?