Marriage Course - September 11, 2012

Day 25 - Putting Negotiation into Action and Grow Together

• we're not incompatible unless we refuse to change
• we can change ourselves; we cannot change each other
• we can only change when we know what matters to each other
• we must tell each other what frustrates and hurts us
• much conflict arises from our different assumptions about the way things should be
• important to be aware of our own and each other’s values (often learned during our upbringing)
• requesting change is helpful; demanding change is harmful

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What happens if hurt and anger are buried?

Physical symptoms

  • disturbed sleep
  • appetite affected
  • medical conditions, e.g.; ulcers, high blood
  • pressure, pain

Behavioral symptoms

  • inability to relax
  • low sexual desire
  • quick temper / intolerance
  • escape through drugs, alcohol, pornography, etc.
  • escape into work, children, religious activities, etc.

Emotional symptoms

  • loss of positive emotions, e.g.; romance, love, joy
  • low self-esteem / depression
  • shut down
  • fear of confrontation

How many of these are part of your life today?  How, if at all, are they connected with unresolved anger?