Parenting Children - September 9, 2012

Day 26 - Helping Children Make Good Choices Part II

4. Be one step ahead

• use distraction, distract your child from the issue causing conflict
• develop your own tarntlu rules to avoid regular arguments

5. Give choices

• being given choices is an important part of a child’s learning to take responsibility
• give choices over issues that are unimportant,
• Which of your toys do you want to take?" and “Do you want to play on the beach or go swimming?"
• giving choices helps to defuse conflict

6. Stay in control

• avoid being dragged into shouting matches our emotional reactions can give children a sense of power over us - like allowing them to press a "big red button" on our chests to see us react. getting angry, chasing them, getting upset
• find a way to give realistic warnings
• don't be manipulated by your child(ren)'s shouting, whining, or tantrums

Question:
How can you stay in control of yourself when faced with bad behaviour?

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1. Micro-managing our children’s lives

  • helicopter parenting – hovering over our children
  • children don’t learn how to think for themselves

2. Being over-competitive for our children

  • puts undue pressure on children

3. Overscheduling our children’s lives

  • can be caused by fear that our children will be left out or left behind

4. Overprotecting and rescuing our children

  • leads to children not taking responsibility or learning from their mistakes
  • allow children to take increasing responsibility for themselves
  • pass on information and values to give them a moral framework to live by

Helping children make good choices

Complete the attached worksheet.

 

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