Parenting Children - August 17, 2012

Day 5 – Experiencing & Observing Healthy Relationships

Parenting Children Ages 0-10

Children learn to relate through experiencing, observing, and practicing various relationships within the family:
•  parent-child
•  mother-father
•  sibling-sibling
•  grandparent-grandchild
•  uncles, aunts, cousins, etc. Experiencing: parent-child relationship
•  children learn to love through experiencing their parents. unconditional love
•  important for children to feel accepted for who they are Our love and acceptance give our children confidence through building in them:
•  security (knowing they are loved not for what they do, but for who they are)
•  self-worth (knowing they are of value - their self-worth is based on what they think we, their parents, think of them)
•  significance (knowing there is a purpose to their lives, and that they have a worthwhile contribution to make) Ultimately security, self-worth and Significance come from God
•  we model God’s parenthood of us
•  parents are in loco dei (in His place to represent Him) Observing: mother-father (and other adult) relationships
•  children learn to relate through observing adult relationships
•  how we, their parents, speak and listen to each other
•  the physical affection we show
•  whether and how we resolve conflicts
•  children need to see firsthand the modeling of an intimate, committed adult relationship
•  if parenting together, consider doing The Marriage Course to invest in your relationship
•  if not parenting together, work at having thebest possible relationship with your child’s other parent (resolving conflict, forgiveness, consistency, etc.)

Question:
Where is your child learning most about how to build healthy relationships?

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We try to understand the problem with our world, and with us.  We look at one definition of the word “sin” as missing the mark or target.Today’s topic is sinI know this is a word that carries a lot of baggage, many of you have heard it before, and probably have some negative experiences around it.

You’re not alone, watch a quick video of people’s reactions to this word, and then discuss it with your groups.

Now that we have all shared our experience with this word, we’ll look at what it really means.

It’s important that we do this, so we can fully understand God’s plan for our world, ourselves, and our relationship with him…and that something very real is blocking our way.

As we mentioned in the first week, we do live in an absolutely beautiful world, but that is only half the story It is pretty hard to avoid the conclusion that there is something wrong with the world.

G.K Chesterton was a famous British journalist and playwright. Once The Times of London asked a number of writers, including G.K Chesterton for essays on the topic of “What’s Wrong with the World?”  This was Chesterton’s submission…

Dear Sirs:

I am.

Sincerely Yours.

G.K. Chesterton.

According to the Christian faith, the biggest problem in the world has to do with us, and it has to do with something called our sin.  Yet the concept of sin is offensive or ludicrous to many.  This is often because we don’t understand what followers of Jesus mean by this term.  And I would like to unpack it a little with you and try to get beyond the negative baggage that I freely admit the word carries.

Slide5The first definition comes from the actual word sin, used in the New Testament.

We think of it as a religious word, but in the original Greek language, it was a word from the sport of archery.

To miss the target was to sin.  Imagine a Greek archer shooting arrows…I sinned!  Ahh, I sinned again, and again!  I meant to hit the target, and I missed.

A small example from my life is my doublemindedness around my favourite activities.

TV/books,

Exercise/laziness, etc.

Honestly, that’s pretty dysfunctional—saying one thing and then immediately doing the opposite.  I miss the mark.  I’m not living the healthy, intelligent, balanced life I know I could be living.

In a bigger sense that dysfunctionality, when it applies to the entirety of our lives, is what followers of Jesus call “sin”.

I gave you a rather trivial example but that “missing the mark”  is actually quite wide and varied.  If I were to put up on little yellow post it notes all around this room, every thing that I have ever done, ever said, ever thought, or ever forgot to do or say, I would feel naked and humiliated in front of you.

The apostle Paul, one of the writers in the New Testament, summed it up as this “All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”  Note first the obvious connection to archery, the arrow Paul meant to hit the target didn’t go far enough, it fell short and missed the mark.

Note also who Paul is comparing us to—the glory of God.  When we talk about sin, we like to compare ourselves to axe murderers or child molesters or Hitler, and we will usually think we come off quite well.

But when I compare myself to God Himself, I fall incredibly short too.

How have you thought of sin in the past? What images or words does “sin” conjure up?