• our children crave to be noticed by us and crave our attention
• special time with each child develops their self-esteem and their ability to relate to others
• can be difficult for us as parents to recognize this need and to fulfill it
• the more children we have, the more planning and conscious effort it takes
• channels of communication are opened through spending one-on-one time with our child(ren)
• can transform a child’s behavior
eye contact:
• can be used either positively or negatively
• children learn by modeling - if we do it, they'll do it
• easy when they are babies - but don't give up eye contact as they get older
• good eye contact goes hand in hand with active listening
Question: Do you have fond memories of 1:1 time with a parent? What memories can you create with your children one on one?
We need to express love to our child(ren) in all five ways
some expressions of love/love languages will be more important to them than others
as our children grow older we need to try to recognize their primary and secondary ways of feeling loved
pay particular attention to using their principal love languages
Which expressions of love do you think make the most difference to your children? Which of the five do you find most difficult to give? What would help you show love in this way?