• our children crave to be noticed by us and crave our attention
• special time with each child develops their self-esteem and their ability to relate to others
• can be difficult for us as parents to recognize this need and to fulfill it
• the more children we have, the more planning and conscious effort it takes
• channels of communication are opened through spending one-on-one time with our child(ren)
• can transform a child’s behavior
eye contact:
• can be used either positively or negatively
• children learn by modeling - if we do it, they'll do it
• easy when they are babies - but don't give up eye contact as they get older
• good eye contact goes hand in hand with active listening
Question: Do you have fond memories of 1:1 time with a parent? What memories can you create with your children one on one?
make sure the time is clear of any other commitments for every member of the family
prevent interruptions from the telephone or other people (unless they are invited with the understanding that it is family time
Suggested routine for family times
try to make it the same time each week
spend at least an hour and a half having fun
take turns choosing what activity you do (See worksheet)
have it coincide with a meal
get each family member in turn to choose their favorite menu -when they are old enough, use it as an opportunity to teach them to cook their choice of food
make sure conversation and activities are at the level of the children
if it is a week night, work out when to fit in homework, music practice, etc. (before or after depending on the age of the children)
turn off the TV, or limit it to one program or DVD that you can watch together
children learn about good and bad behavior from their family
they learn values such as:
thinking about others
taking responsibility
helping around the house
How can you plan a focused time of play with your child(ren) this week? Spend some time thinking about your moral compass – where does it point? Why?
