Parenting Teens - September 5, 2012

Day 20 - Effective Communications Strategies Part II

Parenting Teenagers

We look at the role of Paying Attention to Their World, Listening for Feelings & Avoiding Interruptions in effective communications.

4. Show an interest in the world of your teenageres) • ask questions about their interests and listen to their answers • treat them as unique individuals with their own points of view and personal tastes

5. Listen for feelings • allow them to express negative emotions • don't rush in with solutions right away

6. Try to avoid interrupting • the average person listens for only seventeen seconds • resist the desire to be defensive or to butt in and correct

Question:
What affirming words can you share with your teenager this week? What one-to-one time can you plan?

See the attached worksheets in the study guide

From Series: "Parenting Teenagers"

Study Guide

More Messages Associated With "Family"...

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  • value of laughter
  • plan special family times
  • make sure the time is clear of any other commitments for every member of the family
  • prevent interruptions from the telephone or other people (unless they are invited with the understanding that it is family time
  • Suggested routine for family times
    • try to make it the same time each week
    • spend at least an hour and a half having fun
    • take turns choosing what activity you do (See worksheet)
    • have it coincide with a meal
    • get each family member in turn to choose their favorite menu -when they are old enough, use it as an opportunity to teach them to cook their choice of food
    • make sure conversation and activities are at the level of the children
    • if it is a week night, work out when to fit in homework, music practice, etc. (before or after depending on the age of the children)
    • turn off the TV, or limit it to one program or DVD that you can watch together
  • children learn about good and bad behavior from their family
  • they learn values such as:
    • thinking about others
    • taking responsibility
    • helping around the house

How can you plan a focused time of play with your child(ren) this week?  Spend some time thinking about your moral compass – where does it point?  Why?

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