Parenting Children - August 17, 2012

Day 5 – Experiencing & Observing Healthy Relationships

Parenting Children Ages 0-10

Children learn to relate through experiencing, observing, and practicing various relationships within the family:
•  parent-child
•  mother-father
•  sibling-sibling
•  grandparent-grandchild
•  uncles, aunts, cousins, etc. Experiencing: parent-child relationship
•  children learn to love through experiencing their parents. unconditional love
•  important for children to feel accepted for who they are Our love and acceptance give our children confidence through building in them:
•  security (knowing they are loved not for what they do, but for who they are)
•  self-worth (knowing they are of value - their self-worth is based on what they think we, their parents, think of them)
•  significance (knowing there is a purpose to their lives, and that they have a worthwhile contribution to make) Ultimately security, self-worth and Significance come from God
•  we model God’s parenthood of us
•  parents are in loco dei (in His place to represent Him) Observing: mother-father (and other adult) relationships
•  children learn to relate through observing adult relationships
•  how we, their parents, speak and listen to each other
•  the physical affection we show
•  whether and how we resolve conflicts
•  children need to see firsthand the modeling of an intimate, committed adult relationship
•  if parenting together, consider doing The Marriage Course to invest in your relationship
•  if not parenting together, work at having thebest possible relationship with your child’s other parent (resolving conflict, forgiveness, consistency, etc.)

Question:
Where is your child learning most about how to build healthy relationships?

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Slide12In our last session we saw how the director of the six act play stepped on to the stage, as Jesus.  Today we conclude an overview of the Christian story in six acts with Acts 5 & 6, which are about us, and the end of the story.We’ll skip an act, and go right to Act 6 to see how it ends.  We know the ending, God has already said how it will be.

Maybe you’ve heard about revelation, apocalypse, or the rapture before, and immediately think of awful things when you hear about “the end of the world”.

Act 6 is written in very poetic language in the Bible, so lots of people have come up with theories about how and when it will happen.

But no matter how one reads it, the point is always that good wins, and evil loses.  God wins, and evil loses.

God created the world and created us humans to know him intimately and personally.   We are meant to be something other than what we are today….and he has plans to restore us into that right relationship with him.

But this restoration is not limited to just us humans…all of creation was made for something better, and he has plans to restore the natural world and order as well…no sickness, death, war, famine, etc.  Nothing that rebels against God’s good nature.

The world as God intended it!

But we are not there yet.  Creation is not yet perfected, neither are we!  There’s a missing act.

Slide13Imagine this actually happened…an unknown Shakespearean play is discovered.  We found Acts 1-4 and Act 6, but Act 5 is missing.

One person has proposed collecting a bunch of Shakespearean actors, have them study script, Acts 1-4 and 6, and then put them on stage and invite them to act out the first four acts, then improvise Act 5 in a way that honours the past, and connects with the known ending.

That’s what God has done with us…

We know how this story starts and ends.

Now we are in Act 5 – invited to join God as part of His story.  We are invited to study his past and future actions, and then improvise with him, as we move toward the proper ending, called the kingdom of God…that looks suspiciously like Act 1 as well.

God wants us to be part of his plan for the world.

And it’s finally possible, because Jesus has set the play back on track.

There is the story, in six acts.

We took our time, but it needn’t be that complicated.  The story of the universe can be summed up in one paragraph:

  • God created the world to know God personally
  • we said no thanks,
  • and God has been trying to reconnect with us ever since.
  • When we weren’t able, he came to us,
  • and has left us here to improvise in a way that will
  • give this story the good ending he has planned.

Slide14

Which parts of the Christian story give you hope?  Which parts do you want to know more about?