Parenting Children - September 20, 2012

Day 37 - Helping our children manage their anger - Older children Ages 5-10

• read each child’s way of showing anger
• aim to teach them "expression," rather than aggression or "suppression"
• help them to express anger appropriately (verbally and pleasantly)
• correct rudeness, destructive behavior, swearing, hitting others, etc. - without shutting them down
• allow them to express negative feelings: hurt, sadness, anger, etc.
• not allowing expression or discussion can lead to passive aggressive behavior, i.e; using negative behavior to get back at parents, such as being uncommunicative, refusing to co-operate, or being deliberately annoying
• we need to recognize if we are contributing to the problem and our child’s anger
• don't punish for being immature in expressing negative feelings

Question:
For you, what will be hardest about reacting to anger in this way? Why?

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  • having a vision for our familu life
  • pausing to think about what we want to achieve
  • what will our children’s memories be of us and their home in twenty years, time?

Goals for our family life

When they are adults, will our children associate their upbringing with:

  • having fun together as a family?
  • being listened to?
  • being able to talk through difficult choices?
  • being encouraged and affirmed?
  • being valued for their unique personality and gifts?
  • knowing they are loved?
  • learning important values of honesty, generosity, etc.?
  • learning to think about others?
  • being prayed for?
  • having clear boundaries for their own protection?
  • seeing kindness modeled?

The importance of play

  • using their imagination
  • learning skills
  • playing on their own
  • playing with others
  • indoor and outdoor play
  • limiting screen time

Did you have fun with your family growing up?  When do you have the most fun together as a family now?

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