Parenting Teens - September 6, 2012

Day 21 - Effective Communications Strategies Part III

We look at the role of reflecting back, responding appropriately and taking a long-term view in healthy communications.

7. Reflect back what they have said • say back to them what you think they are trying to express, particularly their feelings use some of their own words and phrases

8. Respond appropriately • give guidance and reassurance • they are likely to remember our words for years to come

9. Take a long-term view • sometimes any meaningful communicationwith teenagers can be a big struggle • difficulties are usually the result of a phase they're going through • try to create the conditions for conversation to become easier, at mealtimes; spending time with them doing what they enjoy; using their love language • if worried, seek professional help and/or medical support

Question:
Role play with another adult. Have them share a typical teenage problem with you, and reflect back what they’ve said. Go back and forth for a few minutes, then switch. What was easy or hard about this?

From Series: "Parenting Teenagers"

Study Guide

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  • having a vision for our familu life
  • pausing to think about what we want to achieve
  • what will our children’s memories be of us and their home in twenty years, time?

Goals for our family life

When they are adults, will our children associate their upbringing with:

  • having fun together as a family?
  • being listened to?
  • being able to talk through difficult choices?
  • being encouraged and affirmed?
  • being valued for their unique personality and gifts?
  • knowing they are loved?
  • learning important values of honesty, generosity, etc.?
  • learning to think about others?
  • being prayed for?
  • having clear boundaries for their own protection?
  • seeing kindness modeled?

The importance of play

  • using their imagination
  • learning skills
  • playing on their own
  • playing with others
  • indoor and outdoor play
  • limiting screen time

Did you have fun with your family growing up?  When do you have the most fun together as a family now?

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