Marriage Course - September 12, 2012

Day 26 - The Importance of Shared Faith

Marriage

When we expect our partner to meet all our needs, We inevitably fail each other and get hurt, causing our marriage to spiral downward.

When we look to God to meet our needs for significance, security, and self-esteem, we are better able to give to each other.

Praying Together

• helps us connect with each other in a meaningful way
• ensure prayers are vertical, not horizontal and manipulative
• five to ten minutes a dad is better than one hour every month
• ask each other, What can I pray for you today?"
• accept the same requests day after day
• draw on God's promises from the Bible and start with thankfulness
• don't give up even if you have young children
• the closer each of us is individually in our relationship with God, the closer we are to each other as husband and wife
• if one has upset the other, say sorry before praying
• be deliberate and plan it into your schedule
• if you're not comfortable praying, find other ways to connect and support each other on a daily basis

Question:Ask your husband or wife if there's one thinq they’re concerned about at the moment. Then if you are comfortable prayinq, pray for each other. Otherwise, express your support in some other way.

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A life without God at the center is one of alienation from God, and that can be experienced differently by different people.We can all understand and know this kind of alienation personally – it’s a universal experience.

We get this kind of breakdown between brothers and sisters, between parents and children between bosses and their employees—we see it all the time.

WE know this stuff about alienation—what the Bible is saying is that what God intended between us, between God and human beings, has suffered serious damage.

Life is supposed to be about being connected to God and connected to one another. –But that close and intimate relationship that we are supposed to have with God has gotten broken somewhere along the away and then everything else gets out of whack

SO serious things wrong with the world and serious things wrong with us—so much so that we now find our natural condition the Bible says is to find ourselves alienated, separated from God.

This alienation from God takes various forms:

1) Indifference:  I just really don’t care—leave me alone and let me get on with my life.

2) Hostility:  stuff in a persons background—perhaps a parent died when they were young, or they suffered some sort of abuse—-If there is a God why would this happen—I hate God.

3) Confusion:—where would I start—there are so many religions in the world and people believe such different things—what I am supposed to think ? Confusion leads to inaction

4) Fear—people are just afraid that if they get too close chances are I might loose control over my life…. Many people spend there whole lives trying to run away from God.

But the message of the Bible is clear—we were created to live in a relationship of love with God, we were created to have that relationship at the center of our lives and so often that is not the case.

If we are going to be serious about a spiritual journey, we have to face the fact there is a problem in the world we live in

But it’s much closer to home than just broken relationships with the world, with others, and with God.

There is something broken about us.

I can say that to you since I think that we are fellow travelers.  Something is broken inside of me.

On a simple level I do not consistently live up to being the person that I want to be—in terms of character development, how I use my resources, how I care for others, in what I invest in my marriage, and the list goes on.

Sometimes I can’t and sometimes I don’t want to. When I do something wrong it isn’t always out of ignorance—  sometimes I WANT to do the wrong thing – that’s human nature—doesn’t mean we are bad or terrible people—that’s the way we are—we all have had the experience of biting our tongue—wish I hadn’t said that.  

So there is something wrong with the world and I think there is something wrong with me.

We will look at this in detail in the next section…but the good news is, this is not who we truly were made to be, and not who we always have to be.

Do you naturally react to God in any of the ways described?  What comes more naturally, indifference, hostility, confusion or fear?  Why?