Marriage Course - September 12, 2012

Day 26 - The Importance of Shared Faith

Marriage

When we expect our partner to meet all our needs, We inevitably fail each other and get hurt, causing our marriage to spiral downward.

When we look to God to meet our needs for significance, security, and self-esteem, we are better able to give to each other.

Praying Together

• helps us connect with each other in a meaningful way
• ensure prayers are vertical, not horizontal and manipulative
• five to ten minutes a dad is better than one hour every month
• ask each other, What can I pray for you today?"
• accept the same requests day after day
• draw on God's promises from the Bible and start with thankfulness
• don't give up even if you have young children
• the closer each of us is individually in our relationship with God, the closer we are to each other as husband and wife
• if one has upset the other, say sorry before praying
• be deliberate and plan it into your schedule
• if you're not comfortable praying, find other ways to connect and support each other on a daily basis

Question:Ask your husband or wife if there's one thinq they’re concerned about at the moment. Then if you are comfortable prayinq, pray for each other. Otherwise, express your support in some other way.

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We look at two more consequences of sin:

  • makes us seek justice in this life
  • separates us from others and from God

Thirdly, thankfully there is something in human nature that cries out for justice. When we hear about atrocities in our world, we long for these people to be brought to justice, for them to be caught and punished for what they have done.

I have never yet met anyone who wants God to be the sort of person who says “you know what, crimes against humanity, or children, just don’t really bother me, let’s just sweep it under the carpet and get on with life.”  No, we want a just world, and want God to be a God who demands justice in this life.

And while our motives can sometimes be mixed, you might be out for revenge, or it makes us feel better about yourself to see others being punished, there is such a thing as justifiable anger—we don’t want people to get away with things.

However, it is not just other people’s sins that need to be held to account; it is our own as well.  If we want a God of justice when it comes to others, we have to accept that for ourselves, too.  God is a God of justice and we are told clearly in the Bible that we will one day all be subject to God’s judgement.   Sin must come up against justice at some point.

And fourthly, sin separates us from others and from God.

Sin is about being far from God, far from that relationship that we were created for.

When we try to replace God with something, or someone else, or us, it naturally introduces a separation between us and God.  Imagine if you discovered your best friend at work was campaigning to have you replaced.  No matter how good the friendship once was, this plan would be insulting, and would introduce a separation between you!

All the sinful things that we do and don’t do, build up a barrier between us and God and between us and other people. remember my little post it notes around the room, and imagine them piling up as thick as a phonebook.  When I first started to sin, it probably seemed quite manageable – I could rip through a post it note or two.  But now that it’s so thick, it’s impossible to break through.

This barrier that sin builds up between us and God is a terrible thing and so often I hear from people who ask why they are not aware of God in my life and I cant feel God.  It is that barrier that has built up between us and God, the barrier of sin, the barrier of our ignoring of God, of our rejecting of God’s hopes and God’s will for our lives.  Something must be done about it, but we simply are not strong enough to rip through that barrier ourselves.

Is there a bad habit in your life that you have struggled with? What effect do bad habits have on our own lives, and on others around us? Bad habits are not always sin, but how is sin like a bad habit?