Marriage Course - August 24, 2012

Day 8 - Nurture Each Other

Marriage

Nurturing involves seeking to meet each other’s emotional needs for affection, encouragement, support, comfort, etc,

• we all have a longing to be loved and to be known by another
• empty space inside that needs to be filled up with love
• when empty, we feel alone or lonely giving each other emotional support refills the empty space inside
• we are made for close relationships

How to nurture
Be proactive rather than reactive:
• being reactive means focusing on each others shortcomings
• being proactive means focusing on each other’s needs
• proactive behavior draws couples together because each one feels loved; when we feel loved, we feel like loving

Study each other:
• recognize each other’s needs
• often our partner’s needs and desires will be different to our own
• discover what matters to your husband or wife. otherwise we tend to give what we like to receive.
• needs change over time
• make requests, not demands
• we can't assume our husband or wife automatically knows our desires. We must tell each other.

Question:Complete the worksheet under "Extras -> Study Guide"

From Series: "Marriage"

Study Guide

More Messages Associated With "Family"...

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  • value of laughter
  • plan special family times
  • make sure the time is clear of any other commitments for every member of the family
  • prevent interruptions from the telephone or other people (unless they are invited with the understanding that it is family time
  • Suggested routine for family times
    • try to make it the same time each week
    • spend at least an hour and a half having fun
    • take turns choosing what activity you do (See worksheet)
    • have it coincide with a meal
    • get each family member in turn to choose their favorite menu -when they are old enough, use it as an opportunity to teach them to cook their choice of food
    • make sure conversation and activities are at the level of the children
    • if it is a week night, work out when to fit in homework, music practice, etc. (before or after depending on the age of the children)
    • turn off the TV, or limit it to one program or DVD that you can watch together
  • children learn about good and bad behavior from their family
  • they learn values such as:
    • thinking about others
    • taking responsibility
    • helping around the house

How can you plan a focused time of play with your child(ren) this week?  Spend some time thinking about your moral compass – where does it point?  Why?

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