Marriage Course - August 24, 2012

Day 8 - Nurture Each Other

Nurturing involves seeking to meet each other’s emotional needs for affection, encouragement, support, comfort, etc,

• we all have a longing to be loved and to be known by another
• empty space inside that needs to be filled up with love
• when empty, we feel alone or lonely giving each other emotional support refills the empty space inside
• we are made for close relationships

How to nurture
Be proactive rather than reactive:
• being reactive means focusing on each others shortcomings
• being proactive means focusing on each other’s needs
• proactive behavior draws couples together because each one feels loved; when we feel loved, we feel like loving

Study each other:
• recognize each other’s needs
• often our partner’s needs and desires will be different to our own
• discover what matters to your husband or wife. otherwise we tend to give what we like to receive.
• needs change over time
• make requests, not demands
• we can't assume our husband or wife automatically knows our desires. We must tell each other.

Question:Complete the worksheet under "Extras -> Study Guide"

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  • for children, love is spelled T.I.M.E.
  • children need quantity time as well as quality time
  • significance of first eighteen months of a child’s life
  • who will be our child’s main caregiver?
  • can be hard to work out balance of parenting and employment
    • working at home/from home
    • full-time/part-time
  • the time we spend with our children is more powerful in communicating our love than anything we say
  • we need to prioritize our time
    • learning when to said “yes” to our children and “no” to other people and things
    • the only place we are indispensable is at home
  • we need to plan our time
    • time with the people who are most precious to us doesn’t just happen
    • if married, plan marriage time” each week
    • as a parent, plan “family time” each week
    • plan some one-to-one time with each child (we will look at this in detail in Session 2 Part 2)
  • we need to protect our time from
    • the TV
    • the telephone
    • other people
    • our work

What demands on your time stop you from spending time with your children?

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