Parenting Teens - September 6, 2012

Day 21 - Effective Communications Strategies Part III

Parenting Teenagers

We look at the role of reflecting back, responding appropriately and taking a long-term view in healthy communications.

7. Reflect back what they have said • say back to them what you think they are trying to express, particularly their feelings use some of their own words and phrases

8. Respond appropriately • give guidance and reassurance • they are likely to remember our words for years to come

9. Take a long-term view • sometimes any meaningful communicationwith teenagers can be a big struggle • difficulties are usually the result of a phase they're going through • try to create the conditions for conversation to become easier, at mealtimes; spending time with them doing what they enjoy; using their love language • if worried, seek professional help and/or medical support

Question:
Role play with another adult. Have them share a typical teenage problem with you, and reflect back what they’ve said. Go back and forth for a few minutes, then switch. What was easy or hard about this?

From Series: "Parenting Teenagers"

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Speaking affirming words is one of the five love languages.

  • the words we speak to our teenagers can stay with them for the rest of their lives
  • tell them of your love and pride in them affirm them (not just when they please you; not just for their achievements)
  • affirm their looks
  • aim at five positive comments for every one negative comment
  • find things for which to praise them
  • loving words build confidence and affect their attitudes
  • loving words can be spoken and written

Which of the five expressions of love do you find hardest to show to your children?