Parenting Teens - September 6, 2012

Day 21 - Effective Communications Strategies Part III

We look at the role of reflecting back, responding appropriately and taking a long-term view in healthy communications.

7. Reflect back what they have said • say back to them what you think they are trying to express, particularly their feelings use some of their own words and phrases

8. Respond appropriately • give guidance and reassurance • they are likely to remember our words for years to come

9. Take a long-term view • sometimes any meaningful communicationwith teenagers can be a big struggle • difficulties are usually the result of a phase they're going through • try to create the conditions for conversation to become easier, at mealtimes; spending time with them doing what they enjoy; using their love language • if worried, seek professional help and/or medical support

Question:
Role play with another adult. Have them share a typical teenage problem with you, and reflect back what they’ve said. Go back and forth for a few minutes, then switch. What was easy or hard about this?

From Series: "Parenting Teenagers"

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Doing kind actions is one of the five love languages.

  • see the regular kind actions you do on their behalf as a way of showing them your love
  • look for opportunities to do something extra for them
  • be careful not to rescue them otherwise they won’t learn from their mistakes
  • give teenagers increasing responsibility
    • don’t do everything for them

remind them to express gratitude for what we or others do for them

How could the list of ranked love languages you made yesterday be helpful in your parenting this week?