Parenting Children - September 3, 2012

Day 20 - Combining Love and Limits - Why Boundaries Matter

Why do we set boundaries?
• the foundation of effective discipline is unconditional love
• a child growing up wants and needs to know where the boundaries are and who is going to enforce them

Discipline develops three things:
• self- discipline (for morally responsible behavior)
• a respect for authority (parental and other)
• a sense of security

Question:
Have you tried one of the five love languages in a new way? What happened?

From Series: "Parenting Children Ages 0-10"

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Parenting teenagers involves gradually letting out the boundaries and giving increased freedom and responsibility.  We compare different parenting styles (neglectful, authoritarian, indulgent and authoritative) and show how a combination of warmth and firmness (authoritative parenting) is the most beneficial to a teenager’s healthy development.Adapting our approach

  • Communication not always easy through the teenage years
  • learning curve for most parents
  • adults and teenagers tend to communicate in different ways

See attached worksheet for some differences!

  • if we allow them to tell us what they find difficult about how we communicate with them, they are more likely to listen to us when we need to tell them what we find difficult about how they communicate with us
  • understand that sometimes teenagers like to be contrary. (If we get heavy and intense they will probably react strongly just to give us a hard time)
  • give them space. Respect their privacy.
  • don’t try to control every aspect of their lives.
  • don’t expect them to tell you everything

How easy or difficult is it for you to communicate with your teenager(s) currently?