Parenting Children - August 28, 2012

Day 16 – Love Language – One to One Time


•  our children crave to be noticed by us and crave our attention
•  special time with each child develops their self-esteem and their ability to relate to others
•  can be difficult for us as parents to recognize this need and to fulfill it
•  the more children we have, the more planning and conscious effort it takes
•  channels of communication are opened through spending one-on-one time with our child(ren)
•  can transform a child’s behavior

eye contact:
•  can be used either positively or negatively
•  children learn by modeling - if we do it, they'll do it
•  easy when they are babies - but don't give up eye contact as they get older
•  good eye contact goes hand in hand with active listening

Question:
Do you have fond memories of 1:1 time with a parent? What memories can you create with your children one on one?

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Parenting teenagers involves gradually letting out the boundaries and giving increased freedom and responsibility.  We compare different parenting styles (neglectful, authoritarian, indulgent and authoritative) and show how a combination of warmth and firmness (authoritative parenting) is the most beneficial to a teenager’s healthy development.Adapting our approach

  • Communication not always easy through the teenage years
  • learning curve for most parents
  • adults and teenagers tend to communicate in different ways

See attached worksheet for some differences!

  • if we allow them to tell us what they find difficult about how we communicate with them, they are more likely to listen to us when we need to tell them what we find difficult about how they communicate with us
  • understand that sometimes teenagers like to be contrary. (If we get heavy and intense they will probably react strongly just to give us a hard time)
  • give them space. Respect their privacy.
  • don’t try to control every aspect of their lives.
  • don’t expect them to tell you everything

How easy or difficult is it for you to communicate with your teenager(s) currently?