Parenting Teens - August 29, 2012

Day 13 - Love Language - Affirming Words

Speaking affirming words is one of the five love languages.

• the words we speak to our teenagers can stay with them for the rest of their lives • tell them of your love and pride in them affirm them (not just when they please you; not just for their achievements) • affirm their looks • aim at five positive comments for every one negative comment • find things for which to praise them • loving words build confidence and affect their attitudes • loving words can be spoken and written

Question:
Which of the five expressions of love do you find hardest to show to your children?

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We look at the role of listening and attention-giving in effective communications.2. Learn to listen

  • treat them like young adults (not children)
  • Listen carefully to their views and feelings
  • Effective communication requires that parents
    • learn to speak with their teenager rather than at their teenager (Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages of Teenagers)
    • engage in discussion and be prepared to debate the issues rather than repeating Simplistic slogans such as “You’re too young to have a boyfriend” or “drugs are dangerous”

3. Give your full attention

  • recognize the important moments to listen and give your full attention
  • don’t try to listen to your teenager while doing something else at the same time

maintain eye contact; observe your teenager’s body language

When have you had your best conversations with your teenager?