Parenting Children - September 3, 2012

Day 20 - Combining Love and Limits - Why Boundaries Matter

Why do we set boundaries?
• the foundation of effective discipline is unconditional love
• a child growing up wants and needs to know where the boundaries are and who is going to enforce them

Discipline develops three things:
• self- discipline (for morally responsible behavior)
• a respect for authority (parental and other)
• a sense of security

Question:
Have you tried one of the five love languages in a new way? What happened?

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We look at the role of listening and attention-giving in effective communications.2. Learn to listen

  • treat them like young adults (not children)
  • Listen carefully to their views and feelings
  • Effective communication requires that parents
    • learn to speak with their teenager rather than at their teenager (Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages of Teenagers)
    • engage in discussion and be prepared to debate the issues rather than repeating Simplistic slogans such as “You’re too young to have a boyfriend” or “drugs are dangerous”

3. Give your full attention

  • recognize the important moments to listen and give your full attention
  • don’t try to listen to your teenager while doing something else at the same time

maintain eye contact; observe your teenager’s body language

When have you had your best conversations with your teenager?