Parenting Children - September 20, 2012

Day 37 - Helping our children manage their anger - Older children Ages 5-10

Parenting Children Ages 0-10

• read each child’s way of showing anger
• aim to teach them "expression," rather than aggression or "suppression"
• help them to express anger appropriately (verbally and pleasantly)
• correct rudeness, destructive behavior, swearing, hitting others, etc. - without shutting them down
• allow them to express negative feelings: hurt, sadness, anger, etc.
• not allowing expression or discussion can lead to passive aggressive behavior, i.e; using negative behavior to get back at parents, such as being uncommunicative, refusing to co-operate, or being deliberately annoying
• we need to recognize if we are contributing to the problem and our child’s anger
• don't punish for being immature in expressing negative feelings

Question:
For you, what will be hardest about reacting to anger in this way? Why?

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We look at the role of Paying Attention to Their World, Listening for Feelings & Avoiding Interruptions in effective communications.4. Show an interest in the world of your teenageres)

  • ask questions about their interests and listen to their answers
  • treat them as unique individuals with their own points of view and personal tastes

5. Listen for feelings

  • allow them to express negative emotions
  • don’t rush in with solutions right away

6. Try to avoid interrupting

  • the average person listens for only seventeen seconds

resist the desire to be defensive or to butt in and correct

What affirming words can you share with your teenager this week?  What one-to-one time can you plan?