Parenting Teens - September 4, 2012

Day 19 - Effective Communications Strategies Part I

Parenting Teenagers

We look at the role of listening and attention-giving in effective communications.

2. Learn to listen
• treat them like young adults (not children) • Listen carefully to their views and feelings

Effective communication requires that parents o learn to speak with their teenager rather than at their teenager (Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages of Teenagers) o engage in discussion and be prepared to debate the issues rather than repeating Simplistic slogans such as “You're too young to have a boyfriend” or “drugs are dangerous”

3. Give your full attention • recognize the important moments to listen and give your full attention • don't try to listen to your teenager while doing something else at the same time • maintain eye contact; observe your teenager’s body language

Question:
When have you had your best conversations with your teenager?

From Series: "Parenting Teenagers"

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Right and Wrong Choices

  • teach the difference between acceptable and unacceptable behavior
  • explain the consequences – pleasant for good behavior and unpleasant for crossing the boundary
  • tell them that the choice is theirs
  • teaches them to take responsibility for their own actions
  • reward “right choices” with descriptive praise
  • use a “star chart” or the equivalent for persistent issues
  • have negative consequences for “wrong choices.”

What can help you reinforce “right choices”?  What consequences can you put in place for “wrong choices”?

 

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