Parenting Teens - September 6, 2012

Day 21 - Effective Communications Strategies Part III

We look at the role of reflecting back, responding appropriately and taking a long-term view in healthy communications.

7. Reflect back what they have said • say back to them what you think they are trying to express, particularly their feelings use some of their own words and phrases

8. Respond appropriately • give guidance and reassurance • they are likely to remember our words for years to come

9. Take a long-term view • sometimes any meaningful communicationwith teenagers can be a big struggle • difficulties are usually the result of a phase they're going through • try to create the conditions for conversation to become easier, at mealtimes; spending time with them doing what they enjoy; using their love language • if worried, seek professional help and/or medical support

Question:
Role play with another adult. Have them share a typical teenage problem with you, and reflect back what they’ve said. Go back and forth for a few minutes, then switch. What was easy or hard about this?

From Series: "Parenting Teenagers"

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. Be Fair and Clear

  • are they old enough to understand our instructions?
  • are we expecting too much for their age?

2. Use your voice effectively

  • use a serious tone of voice to teach what “no” means
  • aim not to shout unless warning of danger

3. Action gets results

  • shouting and threatening are ineffective
  • important to take action over bad behavior,
  • i.e: follow through with a consequence

What choices have you given your child(ren) today?  What encouragement have you given for right choices this week?  What unpleasant consequences have you used for wrong choices this week?

 

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