Marriage Course - August 27, 2012

Day 11 - The importance of listening

• we can become highly selective in our listening
• most of us take listening for granted, yet it is possible to close OUR ears
• listening has the power to make our husband or wife feel loved and valued
• one of the most important skills to learn for a strong marriage
• the Bible places great value on listening effectively

Question:How do you feael when you are listened to? How do you feel when you are not listened to? To whom would you go if you needed a listening ear? What makes that person a good listener?

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4. Be one step ahead

  • use distraction, distract your child from the issue causing conflict
  • develop your own tarntlu rules to avoid regular arguments

5. Give choices

  • being given choices is an important part of a child’s learning to take responsibility
  • give choices over issues that are unimportant,
  • Which of your toys do you want to take?” and “Do you want to play on the beach or go swimming?”
  • giving choices helps to defuse conflict

6. Stay in control

  • avoid being dragged into shouting matches our emotional reactions can give children a sense of power over us – like allowing them to press a “big red button” on our chests to see us react. getting angry, chasing them, getting upset
  • find a way to give realistic warnings

don’t be manipulated by your child(ren)’s shouting, whining, or tantrums

How can you stay in control of yourself when faced with bad behaviour?

 

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