An introduction to the parenting children course.
• any expectations to be perfect parents are unrealistic and unhelpful
• no instant recipe or formula for bringing up children
• different situations and different children call for different approaches
• some general principles that apply to all families
• value of discussions with other parents
• challenge of pace of life today
• vital for parents to invest enough time and energy into family life
Question: What about parenting gives you the most joy today?
use distraction, distract your child from the issue causing conflict
develop your own tarntlu rules to avoid regular arguments
5. Give choices
being given choices is an important part of a child’s learning to take responsibility
give choices over issues that are unimportant,
Which of your toys do you want to take?” and “Do you want to play on the beach or go swimming?”
giving choices helps to defuse conflict
6. Stay in control
avoid being dragged into shouting matches our emotional reactions can give children a sense of power over us – like allowing them to press a “big red button” on our chests to see us react. getting angry, chasing them, getting upset
find a way to give realistic warnings
don’t be manipulated by your child(ren)’s shouting, whining, or tantrums
How can you stay in control of yourself when faced with bad behaviour?