Parenting Children - September 24, 2012

Day 41 - Symptoms of Unhealthy Control

Parenting Children Ages 0-10

I. Micro-managing our children's lives
• helicopter parenting - hovering over our children
• children don't learn how to think for themselves

2. Being over-competitive for our children
• puts undue pressure on children

3. Overscheduling our children's lives
• can be caused by fear that our children will be left out or left behind

4. Overprotecting and rescuing our children
• leads to children not taking responsibility or learning from their mistakes
• allow children to take increasing responsibility for themselves
• pass on information and values to give them a moral framework to live by
• Helping children make good choices

Question:
Complete the attached worksheet.

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4. Be one step ahead

  • use distraction, distract your child from the issue causing conflict
  • develop your own tarntlu rules to avoid regular arguments

5. Give choices

  • being given choices is an important part of a child’s learning to take responsibility
  • give choices over issues that are unimportant,
  • Which of your toys do you want to take?” and “Do you want to play on the beach or go swimming?”
  • giving choices helps to defuse conflict

6. Stay in control

  • avoid being dragged into shouting matches our emotional reactions can give children a sense of power over us – like allowing them to press a “big red button” on our chests to see us react. getting angry, chasing them, getting upset
  • find a way to give realistic warnings

don’t be manipulated by your child(ren)’s shouting, whining, or tantrums

How can you stay in control of yourself when faced with bad behaviour?

 

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